In response to my â€œwhat issues do you face as a mother in 2020?â€ question a friend of mine on Instagram shared:
â€œI feel as though I am shamed or looked down upon for wanting â€˜meâ€™ timeâ€
I felt it was appropriate to share this immediately (anonymously) to open up the opportunity for women to share their feelings, experiences and advice and I have decided to share some of the responses here:
Everyone deserves some me time. Make sure you look after yourself
Your mental well-being matters. You need to look after yourself as well as you look after your kids â¤ï¸
Everyone needs time/space. As long as your kids are safe and happy thereâ€™s no issues
Everyone needs some me time and it doesnâ€™t make you a bad mum for accepting some help
Donâ€™t listen to it… you need you time…. never lose sight of the person you are ðŸ’•
Ignore them. You time is important for you and the children!
Being a mam is itâ€™s own job. You wouldnâ€™t work with no breaks! You deserve and need them – XO
To be the best mum you can be you need to be the best YOU you can be. Everyone needs a break
Go for two nights and cut the judge Judys out!
So there we have it. The overwhelming response to this was one of positive support from other mums. I think we all understand and recognise how important it is to be able to recharge the batteries and also maintain a sense of personal identity.
Iâ€™m trying to think about what I like to do when I have some â€˜meâ€™ time and I have to admit thereâ€™s nothing better than being able to have a long soak in the bath, and then wash and blow dry my hair without interruption. I need to get myself out more!